The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances; if there is any reaction, both are transformed.

 - Carl Jung, Man in Search of Soul 

  This history is about how the lives of many people have been changed for the better since the unexpected need arose for THE ART OF CONNECTING acting classes to merge with THE ART OF CONNECTING communications skills training. It is about how this combination evolved into YOUAND, a daily practice for meaningful connection with oneself and others. 

It is also about how dedicated students of the craft of acting, executives from the world’s leading media companies, writer/directors for the stage and film, and most unlikely of all - career military instructors; learned ways to gain greater self-confidence, presence, interpersonal communication skills, more personal initiative, more effective leadership skills, and how to improve the quality of their human interactions and relationships in a meaningful way.

The Call

In the spring of 1999, I received a phone call. The United States Army, Logistics & Readiness Division Central Electronic Command (CECOM) had a question. Could I train military instructors how to teach with the eloquence and charm of a Regis Philbin, like talk show hosts? It took a series of phone calls before I began to take this seriously. The United States Army wanted to send career soldiers for acting lessons? 

CECOM had launched a distance learning initiative that required military instructors to teach New Equipment Training (NET) via live video teleconference. 

The Problem

The instructors' inexpressive teaching styles lacked any interpersonal engagement. Their lessons were "flat lining" falling far short of U.S. Army Training and Doctrine Command (TRADOC) requirements. The project was on the brink of disaster. 

CECOM Logistics & Readiness Chief, James Lockwood hired my Santa Barbara, CA school, Actors In Training (AIT) to create a customized course and broadcast studio for CECOM's purposes. the job was to teach military instructors how to deliver teleconferenced NET Training that was "as good as" traditional face-to-face classroom instruction. 

The Solution

I created a course that merged the openhearted traditions of the acclaimed Alternatives to Violence Project (AVP) with Sanford Meisner's step-by-step approach for actor training; the Meisner Technique. 

Sanford Meisner, my teacher, is one of the most respected and influential acting teachers of the 20th century. His technique is taught the world over. Its distinctive characteristic is robust moment-to-moment human interaction.  ​

I also brought my 25 years of acting and teaching experience at the highest levels of mainstream arts & entertainment. And, over the past 15 years before 1999, I had been devising innovative and award winning methods for teaching healthy life choices to at-risk teenagers; that experience was most useful. 

I paired soldiers with my adult professional acting students. Together we agreed to put great emphasis on honoring and validating each other’s feelings and thoughts throughout the entire learning process. In this supportive environment, we all strove to learn how to actively listen more deeply, with greater empathy to our fellow human beings. 

The Results

The battle-hardened veteran instructors became expert interpersonal communicators. Like the students in my acting classes, the soldiers acquired the communication skills to perceive and respond to the minutest nuance of another person's behaviors. This enabled them to modify their lessons in accordance with each of their student’s present needs. Their presence for engagement with others showed vast marked improvement. 

I also noticed an immediate change in the students in my acting classes. Each made more progress with less fuss and effort than in a traditional, more judgmental, acting class environment. Their acting was more natural, less self-conscious and more confident.

The CECOM course was a big success. For the next two years more classes followed on a bi-monthly basis. This added a wonderful "reality" dimension to my acting classes. But, with my mission as an educator accomplished, I had to reckon with an even more meaningful and unexpected result. Both, my student actors and my military students consistently and enthusiastically exclaimed about how the course not only improved their communication skills for work, but also about how the course increased the quality of their personal lives, and in a number of ways. 

​James Pinkney, 2000: 

“My experience with AIT was one of the most fulfilling and to this day greatest experiences in my life. A little about my background I had been an instructor in the U.S. Army for about 6 years. After retirement I continued to instruct with a contractor named E.P.S. teaching the SINCGARS radio and other communications equipment.

I told Mr. Santana I was there to take all that he was willing to teach, he was/is a taskmaster, and he worked us INSIDE OUT! Things that were my strong points he made stronger my weak ones disappeared and if they came back he NEVER hesitated to remind me.

This is a program I would recommend to everyone. If you want to learn about yourself and what your potential is as a person I can't say enough about Mr. Santana's training. If you would like to talk to me my DSN is 312 4757940. There's more I can tell you but this message would be to long.  After my tour in Germany I would love to come back and teach who knows, just to work with THE MASTER!

​Mr. James L. Pinkney, 
NET Frequency Manager,
U.S. Army CECOM" 


The implications of my students' experiences had a profound affect on me. 

I never imagined that adults outside the performing arts could gain so much benefit from methods I'd used to reach at-risk teenagers. Or, that my acting class students could do better work in an environment that was far different than in a traditionally taught acting class. Where now our emphasis was on creating deep, authentic connections with ourselves and others, in life, and then to bring that ability to imaginary circumstances. 

In my experience, bringing together AVP's approach to communication skills and conflict resolution/mediation training, together with Sanford Meisner's moment-to-moment exercises, transformed both approaches in a way that brought about greater results than the sum of their individual effects; combined they had synergy. 

I came to realize how this powerful combination could make a tangible impact on any sphere of activity with a need to raise the level of empathy between people and improve the authenticity of human relationships. Especially for greater teacher-student engagement, social work, youth work, leadership, and performing in the arts, 
in particular for the vital need that actors have for believable moment-to-moment human interaction on stage and especially acing in film. Also, to increase intimacy in family relationships; skills to validate customers' feelings that creates an "intimate" connection with their needs; and for creating harmonious relations between co-workers or artistic collaborators. I came to see how this course might be of practical use in every situation with people in someone's everyday life. 

What Happened Next

2002: US Army Research, Development and Engineering Command (RDEC) awards my school a 5-year contract to continue research in the field of human interaction. We find out how the first step toward mutual understanding is validation of the other person. The name "YOUAND"emerges. (It’s pronounced, “You, and…”) 

2007: The “active listening” aspect of YOUAND attracts renowned advertiser Charles Rosner. In the '60's, he wrote VISTA's well-known recruitment slogan, “If you’re not part of the solution, your part of the problem." Rosner invites me to join the School of Visual Arts' celebrated faculty, in New York. Charlie believes the "active listening" - communications skills training element of YOUAND is the missing link between creative and account executives in advertising agencies. 

2007: In September, I begin teaching YOUAND The Art of Connecting to executives from the world's leading media companies in SVA's PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT division. I continue teaching at SVA until today (2014).

2008: Distinguished Professor of Film, William Reilly asks me to join the New York University Graduate Film School, Tisch School of the Arts faculty. I accept appointment as Head of the NYU Graduate Film School's Acting Program.  From 2008 - 2012, I use YOUAND to focus on the essentials: collaborations to capture authentic human behavior in front of the camera and for excellent collaborations behind the camera.

This helped some of today’s most promising young filmmakers to recognize and guide authentic human  behavior in their actors' performances. These filmmakers continue to credit a YOUAND approach, specifically, as making the greatest difference in their ability to communicate and guide cast and crew to channel their energies to connect with audiences.

2009: Inviting one actor and filmmaker at a time, using a YOUAND  philosophy, I create The Casting Directory*Social (TCD*S). The guiding principle: PEOPLE WHO WORK WITH PEOPLE YOU KNOW AND TRUST. TCD*S remains as one of the most original actor/director networking sites for independent film on the Internet.  Today we have close to 900 carefully selected members. 

2009: Employing YOUAND methods in auditions, rehearsal, and performance, I direct the Off-Broadway world premiere of one of William Inge's most challenging works, “The Killing.” Starring Neil Huff and J.J. Kandel. "The Killing" opens to rave reviews and runs to sold out houses.

2011: New York Theater Intensives (NYTI) adopts YOUAND as its methodology for collaboration. Annually, for 6 weeks each summer, a group of international theater artists: writers, actors, and directors learn and practice openhearted, deep listening and validating approaches to connecting with each other in my classes and with their audiences. Summer 2014 is coming up!

2014: The Art of Connecting offers YOUAND to the world. 

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José Angel Santana, PhD., Founder​





Jose Angel Santana